Why we all need to be “SELFISH.”

The word selfish has always had such a negative connotation. The urbandictionary.com definesselfish as having a total disregard for anyone but yourself and anyone else’s feelings. We don’twant to be that kind of selfish. The selfishness that allows you to be good to others because youwere first good to yourself is what we want. To […]

Trauma Bonding: How to Break the Cycle

What is Trauma Bonding? Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse. It occurs when the abused person forms an unhealthy bond with the person who abuses them. Essentially, they are the dysfunctional attachments that occur in the presence of danger, shame or exploitation committed by an abuser. What are Symptoms of Trauma Bonds? Obsessing/ […]

Codependency

It’s a universal truth that humans are social beings – we are hardwired for connection, loveand belonging. Decades of research taught us that humans thrived in groups because therewas safety in numbers. For this reason, and many others, we can understand why humansevolved as social animals and continued to organize into groups.Yet today, we reinforce […]

I’ve got 99 problems, and I’m about to solve 1! 

( Four Dialectical behavior therapy options to respond to a problem) Problems always seem to find us no matter where we are and what we do. We can be having a great day, and boom, we get a flat tire, or we get in an argument with a friend, or much worse, we get caught […]

How trauma-informed care is spreading beyond therapy offices

Trauma is an event or series of events experienced by an individual or group that has lasting effects on a person’s well-being. The primary goal of the trauma-informed approach is to avoid re-traumatizing a person. While there have been great strides in social research and trauma research in the past few decades, only in recent […]

Boundaries? What are those?

I am sure you can remember a time as a child when your parents asked you to hug a relative or talk on the phone to an aunt or uncle when you didn’t want to. Do you remember that? Think back to how that made you feel, and do you find yourself in similar situations […]

Coping with War Anxiety

The Russian invasion of Ukraine has left many people across the globe feeling on edge and unsettled. Thoughts of a nuclear war, concerns of a new COVID variant, worries about inflation on top of daily life stressors is more uncertainty than many of us feel equipped to handle. While the fear felt by Ukrainians who […]

Using the Diver’s Reflex to Regulate Emotional Intensity

Ever had a moment where you feel like your brain is in “crisis mode”. The moment when you are trying to figure out how to calm yourself down, but none of your normal coping mechanisms are working. In fact, you may not be able to think logically at all. What do you do then? According […]

Coping with ADHD while working from home

The COVID-19 pandemic required many professionals to trade their offices and conference rooms for standing desks and Zoom calls. While some appreciated not having to embark on their morning commute, transitioning to remote work was a major adjustment – and for many, it still is. The routine of waking up, getting dressed, commuting, and working […]

PTSD in women—does a menstrual cycle affect symptoms?

PTSD in women—does a menstrual cycle affect symptoms? Trauma can show up and effect everyone in so many ways, some people can develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or Complex-PSTSD after experiencing traumatic moments throughout their lives. Historically the diagnosis of PTSD has been strictly researched and treated in men particularly soldiers returning home from war. […]